Strip Clubs - What You Don't Know

Do you think you know about this? You should.

There it is, that building people whisper about. Maybe the local church warns people about it. It'll have a name like, "Teaser's", "Cheaters", "Lido's"... or the like.

It's a Strip Club™, where women (more so than men) pull their clothes off and do other things which are - gasp! - immoral!

Well, I have news for you. It wouldn't be in business at all if there wasn't a need.

Yes, a need. A real one.

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I am married, decisively so, to a woman who had licenses to perform on stage in Florida and Las Vegas. She's spent more time on the pole... than you have talking to your spouse about what matters.

You know. Your spouse? The ONE, from whom you must keep no secrets, hide nothing, tell everything so that you, your spouse and your family may proceed through life with success? ... that's why I'm posting this.

Why can you not tell him or her what you want - to be satisfied? I suggest that it is cowardice - and that you have been TAUGHT to be cowardly.

Think about this. You were built by a process no less grand than the one that burns four million tons of matter a second just to bring you sunlight - and you can't tell someone you swore you love what you need from them?

Well, you can't - or, you are reluctant such that the process is painful somehow -- and so the Strip Club™ will appear to offer a solution.

So, My Girl™ has made a few observations about this that might do you a LOT of good.

Before I get into that, let me describe how the club operates in most cases.
It has an opening time and a closing time. Each performer or dancer who wishes to take the stage or make money from the patrons must rent their time indoors by the hour. They must pay the DJ to play the song(s) they dance to; these are selected by a look at the audience to maximize appeal, as the audience changes by the hour and the day of the week.
There will be a manager of the performers, since a club might have so many girls show up that there's not enough time for all of them to take the stage. There might be a "house mouse", someone who performs who is trusted by management to fix problems before they occur; yes, some of the dancers might abuse drugs and/or alcohol, and not perform well for the Club.
After performing, a dancer must pay a bouncer to escort her to the car / off the premises. This protects them and the club from people deranged by sexual urges or expectations gained from outside as well as inside the club. Most often, this is the law.
Tip: the offensive customer, if not physically broken by a bouncer who is typically very close friends with the girls, will be dusted with glitter. This will show someone at home where he has been, and there will be judgment.

OK, observations!

First: men are not women. That might be a surprise, especially if you believe the garbage "modern" social media spews. Not only are men aggressive beyond belief, sometimes at the house they are protective beyond belief: they won't even tell you they would be excited, and even feel more trusted by an aggressive sexual move that you initiate, because they exist to protect you.
You know that many men have a code of conduct that prohibits them from talking about problems.
You must express clearly that you desire them, by actions, not words - AND you must be aggressive in maintaining their health!
They won't show it, but when you show you want them, your spouse becomes more valuable to themselves and more capable. They can meet more challenges!
Thus, a conversation with a 1%-er, a goddess with an apparently infinite choice of companions, can be fundamentally reassuring: She might say, "Phil, I know *I* would want to know. You can tell her."*
If your guy is worth keeping, he can go to a club and not embarrass, much less betray you. This might be a good litmus test for you both. IF you have a real keeper, he will take you to the club and introduce you. Shocker!

Second: you are being held back by social pressure that doesn't give a damn about you. Religious restrictions have insisted that you have no experience of sex whatsoever until you are betrothed, ignoring the immense pressure society has come to bring as well as the urges themselves - built by the same deity the faithful pretend to obey. In fact, delaying instant gratification has immense rewards, but these are not taught by an increasingly unguided society, which has come to support bad decisions, even with tax money; those poor stupid people couldn't help but do what we told them not to do every hour or so, because we showed them something completely different: do what you want. Now.
Admire the athlete, baby-daddy to three kids with his girlfriend! Admire the single mother, such motherhood being the #1 indicator of criminality wherever it is found. Social pressure!
Here is Reasoning Deficit Disorder: we talk about commitment while doing everything to deny it.

Third: the girls at the club have vastly different reasons for being there. Some want easy access to sex, like a fair number of patrons. Notice I'm not pretending otherwise? It's actually the same at every bar in America: women go to bars for exactly the same reasons men do.
Others enjoy the control they have as they provide actual comfort - or services you didn't know about. The very real company of someone to talk to, who is also a beautiful person with relevant experience.
Can you name another venue from which you can obtain a professional date for a business meeting that won't be embarassing and won't bring baggage and opinions?
Yes, a business meeting. Where the presence of a beautiful woman actually means high status and capabilities.

Fourth: the club itself strips away pretenses. Everyone there knows that "being a good person" doesn't rank #1 in real life. Symmetry of form, healthy hair, clear skin and bright teeth mean the best outcome from seeking the company of someone you see. Nobody ever saw an "O My Gawd" beautiful woman or buff guy and thought, "I'd like to treat that equally!"
The wise will notice which of these is serious and honest about their work, knowing how to show that they, themselves know the difference between a disposable sexpot and a continuous companion.

People want comfort, honesty be damned; as they profess to hate the existence of The Strip Club™, they will eagerly reach for the issue of Cosmo that tells how to make your partner shiver. In Bible™ study, they'll stop the story of the adultress at "he who cast the first stone" rather than reach the end: "go, and sin no more". 

Even though the word of Jesus should have stunned the adultress.

Get the point. Act with honesty. It applies to your private life, too. That Club is no threat at all to any person who has a clear view of themselves, their needs and their company, and you will find that it makes a wonderful example of something you can do together to improve communication. You are real, and you should be able to show that.

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* - here's the way a professional and friendly relationship appears at a "strip club":
Tom walks in. He gets a beer and a snack to sit back and watch the show. He's confident about himself, not a giggling teen or deluded beer-hound in a wife-beater. Several girls stop by to engage in conversation. This might be embarrassing - on purpose. The girls are trying to get him to loosen up. In an hour, the girls have figured out what he wants is not to be teased or even touched, at least not today; they have an idea who his favorite is already (no successful stripper misses a personal cue, and they watch each other with the guy). His favorite comes back, and Tom puts $$ on the table and/orders a snack as well as a drink for the dancer. He must show class to get continuous attention, and that is not just money.
A girl's income is strictly up to her at the strip club. She can make a thousand dollars a night - I am not kidding - if she is very good, and smart with the regulars and the occasional party guys; she'll have an arrangement with her favorite bouncer to step in if she needs him. She won't, with this guy Tom, and after a few minutes she signals to the bouncer he can chill. She's interested in this guy.
Tom tells her as much about his life and/or business as he wants. Being a good listener is ridiculously profitable because nobody else will do that, even at his home. Didja catch that?
Tom has a business. The entire time - and, believe it or not, some guys can get over an O-My-Gawd™ at arm's length wearing nearly nothing - Tom has been figuring out what this girl is worth.
As it turns out, quite a lot this time. Nobody has ever diminished themselves dancing at a strip club. If you think about this, you'll see that there are people behaving abominably in your own neighborhood.
After a few hours, Tom finds he can use this girl on his elbow exactly as was shown in "Pretty Woman". Yes, it is entirely possible she can quit her job to be his girl.

At no time is the venture more or less risky for Tom than his date for Homecoming ten years ago.
He goes home to think more about life. If she was smart, she sent him there.
He'll be back every time he finds no one will listen to him - and occasionally, to see how his favorite(s) is/are doing.

In the end, whether Tom finds a business or personal relationship with the dancer he favors, the choice is entirely his, in an environment where everyone knows what sex is, what it is for, and what it can and cannot do. Even if they forget now and then. It's powerful stuff.

Around him, carnival marks guffaw and goggle, unable to even process the idea that women actually look like that! They're not getting as far as Tom, who knows, in his heart, that in order to enjoy someone wonderful, you must be wonderful, yourself!

Why Donald Trump Is Still Here

 It Appears You Have No Idea

Sorry.
You have probably noticed that Donald Trump has supporters who are loud, proud and do not care what you think of him, STILL. I think you may have forgotten, or not realized why that is, despite the clue stick bruising you by this point. 

So, here are some reasons. You'll notice that most are things he DIDN'T do. That's because Trump fans want government to stop any and all crap they're doing, and if the guy who will do that is an ass in some way, that's OK. Democrats never seem to care about their guy's character, anyway... 

They apparently have no interest in Kamala Harris' or Tim Walz' record. None. Try asking.

Anyway:

• He's not a career politician. Why is this important? Because the vast majority of problems seen by working Americans have come from government. Although many of the problems were not caused by a President, any President is associated with the Congress who DOES produce those problems if they are the same party. It's not even just Democrats to blame for this; career Republicans suck, too. Did you notice that Teh Donald was the ONLY candidate with an (R) who was at all different?
• He has run multiple businesses and made payroll. If you seek to yell about bankruptcies, have you noticed that those occur in courts, and he has been in business for decades?
• His Vice President did not: a) seek to allow falsified evidence at trial, and b) try to extend the prison sentences of black Americans for their labor. Harris did, as AG of CA.
• He didn't lie about Obamacare, repeatedly, as it put tens of millions of Americans out of full-time jobs and kept them there - and medical facilities are still closing.
• He didn't violate Federal law by modifying the terms of Obamacare outside the legislative process.
• He didn't claim loudly that "you didn't build that!" when talking about your life's work.
• It's obvious where he got his money (mostly inheritance). Where did your candidate get theirs?
• He told Chicago police that they could solve their crime problem if they were only allowed to. That is a fundamental quality of leadership: expecting capability from those you associate with and acknowledging that in public.
• He "might be mean" to gays, but he didn't take money from regimes that kill them (Hillary). Didja know that?
• He didn't put "diversity" over competency in selecting staff positions, or in the armed forces where such individuals would require constant and radical medication - or think about themselves rather than their military unit.
• He didn't party at Epstein Island; it is obvious that those who did are still at large, but career pols, and not to be pursued.
• He didn't allow American cities to be burned, as one current VP candidate did, by an organization that did nothing but enrich themselves as they destroyed the property of American workers - and parts of Washington, DC ("Mostly peaceful", my ass). This cemented the idea that "news" was nothing of the sort, never to be trusted - and that the current Administration was not going to protect the citizens.
• He was the target of "news" that was clearly false. So were others, but this is about DJT.
• He didn't call half of Americans "deplorable" or claim they were bitter, clinging to their guns and religion, or call them "trash".
• He didn't trade captured senior terrorists for a deserter.
• He didn't trade an international criminal for a basketball player who could not read Russian laws about drug possession.
• The targeting of his candidacy and his supporters was obvious and continuous, continually raising the question, "What the hell is wrong with making America great?"
• He didn't lead or encourage "an insurrection" of any kind. I know you like to quote courts, but a different cast of liars ignored the Capitol police guiding people into the building, where those people largely took selfies. Think not? There is video, and in a wonderful "tell", the Jan 6 commission actually published that they were seeking the officers who did that. Not fiction.
• He didn't decide to hide manipulation of the free market by telling banks to deny assets to unfavored professions, called "Operation Choke Point".
• He didn't let an American ambassador die in Libya with no consequences, while shifting blame.
• He didn't claim ignorance of US cybersecurity law while in an office required to acknowledge it - or claim that the law didn't apply.
• He wasn't involved in the conspiracy to violate 8USC1082, to open the border or keep it open to give American resources to illegals. Although he did fail to deliver on the promise to close the border, he could point to obstruction.
• He didn't abandon billions of dollars of taxpayer property - military equipment! - leaving the Middle East, in a manner that also killed 13 Americans.
• His people didn't invent or perpetuate the practice of groping toddlers because their parents want to fly on an airplane.
• His conservative supporters are keenly aware that they are shouted down by other "adults", who aged without maturing, intent on preventing free speech because it may prove their position worthless.
• His Attorneys General didn't have to take the 5th Amendment talking to Congress, nor did he engage in the gun-running of "fast & furious".
• His people didn't bugger the 2020 election; Michigan waited 4 months, then dumped 177,000 people off their rolls. Not fiction.
• His people haven't presided over increases in some costs of over 50% due to just 4 years of inflation.
• He divested himself of controls of his money while in office - while Ms Pelosi and others apparently engage in insider trading the very same day legislation they favor becomes law.
• His Inauguration featured a stroll afterwards down the street. The Biden Inauguration featured razor wire and thousands of troops against an attack that wasn't planned and was incredible from the start. The Public? Screw them, they can't be trusted to see Mr. Biden swear in. You can't be trusted.
• His people didn't put cocaine in the White House. Isn't this a hint the people in there aren't interested in your country?
• He didn't expend FEMA dollars on immigrants at the expense of taxpayers needing help because of hurricane Helena.
• He isn't hiding the fact that the Presidency is now occupied by a man who cannot  form coherent sentences.
• He didn't put Tulsi Gabbard on a TSA alert list to restrict her movement.

ALL of these things are the product of career politicians. ALL Americans have a right to expect better service than they are getting, even as they don't usually act. Yet we see repeatedly that a person who advocates for Trump may be physically attacked, or their property damaged, by someone, and that someone is often a gibbering mess, hysterical and incoherent. Why? Who might that be?

Now, you might want to talk about a trial. Do you not recognize that Stormy was in the news years ago? Want to talk about Epstein, dead, and Ghislane Maxwell in jail? For what, now? With whom?
It is a simple thing for the average citizen to blow this off, to look at the unending harassment of Trump and everybody with a red hat and say, "I don't care. Trump is better than any of that... filth."

Can you seriously speak of the law, given the transgressions of the Biden family, Kamala Harris as California AG and their handlers? For years, government officials have done what they pleased, convinced and then proven right that there are no consequences for them. Think about this: while Teh Donald was with Stormy, somebody in government office was diddling children provided by Epstein. Who do you support now?

Now, notice what the Democratic Party did with respect to primaries this year, and tell me that doesn't reek.
Because the ventriloquist doesn't retire his puppet until its usefulness has passed. If you wanna heave when you hear, "Trump", you might think why it is that you're on the side of shooters.

I'm registered "Unaffliated". I don't want to have to select the lesser evil, or deal with braying and whining about slights both real and imagined. I want candidates who have a service record we know about and can be proud of. I don't see one, but I know that I can't find many in the political profession today - and I know that all this time, the career pol has been flagrantly avoiding the oath of office his/her whole career while backed by two Administrations, at least.

How You Lost The United States of America

You have. How? Wait for it…

I have a friend whose sister is an elementary school teacher. She had difficulty with one of her second-grade students, in that he would untie his shoes several times a day, but couldn’t tie them again; he would whine about their being untied incessantly until she tied them for him. So, at a scheduled meeting with his mother, she mentioned that the tyke needed to learn to tie his shoes. The response?

 “That yo job.”

That is a quote. And an example, for she was in no way alone in that opinion.

Nationwide, Americans think it is "someone else’s" job… to do everything. This is well acknowledged. Nearly everyone has a story about someone they know, wanting, even expecting special treatment from others at some time.

But there is a second aspect, invisible and truly horrible. 

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The average American – by extension, you – decided you would assign the entire job of “education” to teachers, even aiding and abetting the absolute myth that teachers are nobles, of special status if not divine.

Here are problems, giant ones:

• Parents lose respect in their own home as they claim apathy and ignorance every time their children ask a question
• The teaching profession has evolved into a political entity with no personal experience other than… attending school.

More than half of the instruction, training, and education previous generations received is now gone.

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Almost nothing is learned from family, as arguments about “education” revolve around testing and money. The teaching profession takes an adversarial position to parental involvement, which somehow has turned into a battle for “self-esteem” which somehow has become disconnected with either aptitude or achievement. Kids don’t learn anything substantive? Ignore that. Make sure they feel OK about it, instead. Be hostile to those who insist that your judgment is suspect.

How did you lose the United States of America? By wanting nothing whatsoever to do with maintaining it. For wanting to avoid judgment of people you knew in your heart were wrong, foolish or evil, because that was not only unpleasant but would expose your inactivity, your uselessness in matters of ethical import. You seized on the idea, "Judge not, lest ye be judged" at once, utterly fearful of Jesus' command at the real end of that story: "Go, and sin no more!"
You have never noticed that the founders of this country set up a system depending on you.

 

In all aspects of American society.
Including family. Which you’re teaching to be selfish and entitled.
I’m sure you’re a wonderful person, otherwise.

So you get a “participant” trophy, too.

Loyalty

You look for a dog that is loyal ...why not a partner?

We are told that somewhere in the vicinity of 50% of marriages in the USA now end in divorce.

I suggest that this is not necessary, though it is understandable.

As time passes, more people are taught that what they want now is the supreme consideration. Nothing whatsoever should stand between themselves and utter satisfaction. The evidence permeates media: we are shown a parade of celebrities who have decided they are tired of what has turned out to be the flavor of the month. We are shown athletes in every major sport who reject marriage, for whatever reason... we even celebrate their casual relationship that has produced a child.

But marriage is not the point, however it may speed probate courts and enable emergent medical decisions.

If you embrace a simple idea, commitment, before you engage in what you think may be serious relationship negotiations, and if you find a partner who recognizes its value...

...you may beat those odds. Especially if tough times come your way.

This lady DOES understand: a promise is the heaviest thing you will carry, and that the rewards of life are often on the other side of a... challenge.

May you find your own way so gifted, that your partner can actually be serious.

Who is in charge?

It's not "government". It's YOU. But not really.

As the political season has been extended to a year-round activity, apparently by popular demand, let me apologize beforehand for any offense you might encounter in reading only part of the story.
If you're not interested in politics, you can stop now. I don't blame you.

Only part of the story? Yeah, you're not really looking at legal actions in the news. For decades, I have watched political expediency set aside law. Please note that Reagan, both Bushes, both Clintons and Obama were surrounded by and buried in a pile of criminals. None of them got touched, no matter how much lying they did. You know you saw their fans loudly proclaim they didn't care, too - even before Facebook, outrage was not linked to education, logic, or reason. The list of offenses against the Constitution are countless.

Each generation has had the opportunity to fix this - to see that the candidate was *not* a liar and conniving miscreant bent on enrichening themselves.
You know in your bones that you now have one person in mind. Now, be honest: this applies to *your* favorite, too.

Each generation has been distracted so well that they only *react* to offenses already complete. I am sure none of you has an idea HOW to get a deserving person on the national stage for the next election - I don't know how to do that - but it's clear that the existing political machines are self-serving, that we have no moral superiority anywhere in sight. Nearly half of the country realizes that the existing government does not serve them - yet the other half is certain that this machine holds them dear.

Okay, I guess. Some owners do love their slaves...

The founding documents of this nation say that YOU are in charge, and that there are commensurate responsibilities YOU must exercise.
But that's the most unpleasant and most hastily-denied word on the planet: "responsibility".
All this time, you've been delegating *authority* to elected officials, to act on your behalf. In the process, you probably didn't notice that your collective attitude, "I pay my taxes, now do your job" has undermined us all. Having no idea whatsoever about what you want to happen, your will is now irrelevent, replaced with whatever that ruling class wants.

So you might be offended now that someone doesn't like your stance on a political issue. Sorry - you have to deal with it. No one gets to ignore a society's rules while they interact with it. That's not me talking. It's one of the laws of cause and effect.

Meanwhile, steady pressure exerted by the actions of Congress will determine whether hobnailed boots come to your house.

You might want to look at that now and then.